Here in Kern County, there are a significant number of people who look at California's decision to allow gay marriage as the end of the world. It's really quite embarrassing. On the city's newspaper blogs, there are people freaking. the. hell. out. Here's my letter to them (since it would get censored there, I'm putting it here):
Dear "Protectors of family values",
You, dear sir or ma'am, are a hypocrite. You don't give two shits about family values. What you care about is maintaining some sort of moral high ground and holding other people to your narrow-minded definitions of love and marriage.
Some of you have said that this is "changing the definition of marriage". I have to ask what your definition is? I define marriage as: two consenting adults who decide to spend their rest of their lives together, who choose to legalize that union so that they may share the same benefits as other married couples. All Americans should be free to marry who they wish (within the realm of consent and adulthood). Why should we give that right to one group of people and not another? As to the claim that marriage is a purely religious ceremony - bullshit. If that's your argument than you would be out there picketing the marriages of heterosexual atheist couples. Now, I realize that I probably just gave some idiot a new cause, but I would think even a majority of theists would object to banning atheist marriages. Let's hope!
I happen to know four human beings (all wonderful, wonderful people) who have decided to be united to the person they love for the rest of their lives. I didn't have the opportunity to go to their wedding, as one couple took the opportunity to marry when Gavin Newsome opened the courthouse in San Francisco over a Valentine's Day Weekend. The other couple went through a bunch of legal rig-a-ma-role to change their names to the same last name and become as close to a married coupe as they could. Every couple should have the experience of standing before friends and family who are there to support them and wish them love and joy (if that's what they want). I've seen these couples express deep love and I'm happy for them. Each of these couples are now parents and are raising beautiful, unique, wonderful babies. Those babies know love and stability. And, I ache with the knowledge that some bigoted asshole will do everything in their power to show them what hate is. I hope that never comes to fruition.
If you value families, then allow them to come together in all the colors, creeds, shapes, and orientations that they can exist. Support them and you support family values.
And, in closing, if your marriage is so tenuous that living in a state that condones gay marriage is going to "ruin it", then you need to examine the foundations of your marriage. Perhaps that foundation isn't as strong as you think it is.