Here's the entire text of her comment (from the last post on this blog).
"Do you tell her (P1) the option where God calls her to be virginally chaste
until her wedding night? That is an option most liberal parents forget so as a
result the number of abortions in teen liberals rise. If P1 keeps her baby what
will you do to her? Is she free to do that and perserve life by standing
accountable to God for the sin."
Why would I tell my children to listen to God's advice about sex when I don't believe in God? If P1 decides she wants to wait until her wedding night, then I'd support her. Just because we talk openly about sex doesn't mean I'm handing her a list of guys' phone numbers, an IUD, and a copy of the Kama Sutra.
Please, please show me the statistics that back-up your claims that "liberal" (aka, open minded and honest) parenting leads to a rise in abortions. I've never seen any study that would suggest that. To the contrary, all studies seem to suggest that states who teach abstinence only have higher rates of abortion than those that use a curriculum that includes discussion of birth control.
Your last statement (in this paragraph) is interesting. And, in fact, Pdaddy and I have had this very discussion on numerous occasions. We both realize that mistakes happen. And, we realize that giving our children that choice would include keeping a pregnancy, even if *we* thought it was too soon for our kids to be parents. However, in the end, we came to the conclusion that we will support the decisions they make. And, since we really would like to see our kids have, at the very least, a Bachelors Degree, we would gladly help raise our grandchild to give our kids the education we've promised them. Having a baby or an abortion is nowhere near the end of the world and premarital sex happens. It's not optimal and we're not advocating that the kids go out and get knocked up, but we will be there for our children in whatever capacity they need us.
"You condone teen sex and don't pretend otherwise because it's clear to me what
you will permit."
I don't condone teen sex. I am honest about the possibility, and probability, that shit happens. I can't even say that I would be happy with one of my children having sex in their teens. But, it has nothing to do with some religious code of ethics. I just know that sex is more than a physical action. Optimally, people should go into sex with a great deal of emotional security and mental preparedness. And, I truly believe that children should have goals, besides marrying so they can have sex, that prepare them for a better future. Sex can derail the best laid plans.
Why would anyone stay pure who don't have God's words or testimony? Have a big
Darwin sex festival where you can have sex like animals cause thats all you are teaching
them to be. My children will be acting like ladies and gentlemen because they
are not animals.
BWA HA HA HA HA HA HA HA!!! Where can one find these Darwinian Sex Festivals? I'm sure everyone reading this blog wants to know.
Setting a rule is wrong now? As long as a child is in its parents house they
should do what parent says. I say no sex until marriage. You tap dance to make
them feel good. well life is hard. you have to be willing to do the right thing.
Setting limitations and expectations is perfectly reasonable. Hey! It's your house. If you want to make chastity and virginity a "rule", then knock yourself out. I just want to know how you feel it's YOUR right to tell me, or anyone else, what to do in OUR homes. If you believe your God wants you to avoid talking about sex with your kids and threaten them into chastity (which, by the way...doesn't seem to work very well), then have at it.
I would never admit this with pride (have children who could name birth control
techniques). It is horrible that you don't protect their innocence.
Yes. It's horrible that children might take responsibility for their reproductive organs and ways to prevent STDs and pregnancy. Being informed is, clearly, evil. *rolls eyes* I'll go back to using a Barbie and Ken with fig leaves covering their non-existant genetalia as props.