I know that some of you have been engaging in a dialogue with SavedinChrist (in comments to the last entry). I really appreciate the way you've handled him/her. It's nice to know that other people think P-Daddy and I are parenting well. I've spent the last hour going back-and-forth on responded to SIC.
There's part of me that wants to ignore SIC. It's nothing that hasn't been said before. It's nothing that hasn't been answered before. And, you guys have done a remarkable job of pointing out his/her bullshit.
The other part of me wants to take SIC down. On top of the comments here, SIC sent e-mails. I thought that it was, possibly, John R (again!). But, the IPs on the e-mails don't match exactly. They're close, but... my research shows that they are at least 100 miles away. As I sit here, I realize that I really want to address some of SIC's comments. I hope you'll indulge me while I do so. I'll begin with the comments left in the last blog entry.
Possummomma or what you call yourself. You are
living a lie as all atheists live a lie by denying what they know is true. You
once believed by your own admission. A child like belief that God commands you
to embrace in Him and that is what you've denied
Well, apparently, you seem to have a problem with two things: people change and I believe having a "child-like belief" is more appropriately phrased than you might imagine. I would say it's a slip of the tongue (unintentional, of course). As adults, what do people like you gain by believing in things as a four year old might? At what point are you, as a Christian and human, obligated to grow up. Does the Bible not ALSO say that you are to put away childish things? So...which is it? Let me see if I can put this another way? What other aspects of your life do you approach "like a child"? Probably, not many...except for religion. Why is that? What would happen if you applied that logic to things like deciding on which house to buy or which political candidate you were going to choose? What about medical care? Would you approach that "as a child"? I would be willing to guess that you approach quite a few unproven claims with your adult brain. It's interesting, to me, that you keep pounding this "believe as a child" rhetoric because it would seem, to me, that believing in God, as a child, would mean you have stunted your emotional maturity and logical progression by choice. Is that really something you want to flaunt? I once believed - you are correct! But, I've changed. There's nothing sinister about changing or growing up.
You mention being ill almost every post and yet take no comfort in
prayers that could ask for God to heal you. What do you expect if you sit in a
house all day feeling sorry for yourself?
This is a false statement. I do not mention my illness in every post. I take no comfort in prayer because it hasn't been shown to have any effect what-so-ever on clinical outcomes. And, I don't sit in this house feeling sorry for myself. Quite the contrary, I sit in this house and count the man ways in which I am satisfied and proud of the life I have.
I don't believe most of what you write...
Ok. That's entirely up to you. No one is required to believe, or agree with, me. But, your rant on lupus is uninformed. I would direct you to the Lupus Foundation of America, in an effort to educate you.
Plenty of people have; met me, spoke to me on the phone, met my family, been in my life for a very long time. ReVamped shared our history with you. I've had phone conversations with MANY posters on this blog. Anyone with half-a-brain, and a bit of internet ability, could easily verify my existence. What I want to ask is: How do we know YOU are for real? Have you given us any evidence to take your story seriously?
As to the "perfect family"...we are not perfect. We are close because we are happy sharing time with each other. The kids are happy! And, when children are happy,...when they know that your love is unconditional and that they are valued beyond measure in the family, then they develop a confidence and security that shows in their very essence and persona. You say that the pictures are "too goo to be true". That makes me feel very sad for you. But, I also know that I would never post pictures of them acting badly because that would violate their right to grow and mature without a permanent, internet record of their "challenges". Would you want someone taking a picture of you every time you acted like an ass? And, most of all, when they are acting poorly, I don't take pictures because they need someone to help them learn what they could've done better and focus on the issue at hand...not a mother with a camera in their face. Contrary to what you may believe, this blog will never be as important to me as retaining the dignity of a child having a bad day. People who focus on the negative actions of a child, and lace their expectations of childhood with "sin" and power trips are the very people who end up perpetuating a cycle of emotional abuse that emotionally handicaps subsequent generations.
I am not my children's' "best friend". I am their mother. As their mother, it is my privilege and duty to help them accentuate their strengths and manage their weaknesses. Having routine, deep discussions with your children, as a mother, goes beyond "best friend". It's a process of building an open relationship of trust and love. I don't need to be their best friend because I'm already their confidante. The fun we have is a bonus, and a testament, to what my husband and I have tried to do. I'm very sorry your jaded nature has rendered you incapable of understanding this delicate and rewarding relationship.
Ok. I need to check out the book group and then head to bed. Good night!