I know this is probably becoming on of those topics that people are tired of hearing about. But,...I have so many thoughts that it's becoming impossible not to blog about it. As some are aware, two polygamist wives posted in my last entry (and maybe the one before that, too). On top of those, I have had twenty-two emails from other people who claim to be polygamists. These e-mails have left me stunned, sickened, and angry. I've taken the liberty of pulling the worst comments/questions to answer here. Some, I've paraphrased because they popped up time after time.
We have just as many rights as you do. How would you feel if California came and took your children for no good reason except they don't like your religion?
You know what? Your children have rights, too! Are you insinuating that a child has less right to protection than an adult? If the state came to my house and took my children purely because I was an atheist, then you bet your ass I'd be mad. However, this is not the case with the YFZ ranch or even FLDS. Your children were removed because you're using your abusing your right to practice your religion as promised by the Constitution. When you start using your religion to justify rape and child abuse, it's no longer an issue of religious freedom - it's a matter of cyclical abuse.
We have clean, well-behave children. If we were bad parents our kids wouldn't be better than the kids in the secular world.
Here's the thing - abusers, especially the most insidious sexual predators, clean up their mess. They understand that leaving a child in tattered rags is likely to draw attention. So, like good groomers, they create the ILLUSION of happiness and care. You can put a twelve year old in a dress, comb/plait her hair, and teach her to "keep sweet". But, doing those things is nothing more than an attempt to hide the fact that you're marrying that twelve year old to an old man. I don't care if your children can whistle Zip-a-dee-doo-dah out their rear ends... the illusion of happiness is not happiness. And, who are they going to complain to? Their parents? The church elders? Children don't routinely seek help from the very same people who abuse them.
The media is playing up our faults and not the good things about the FLDS!
Aside from rocking the waist-length french braid, what exactly is good about the FLDS? You throw your sons out when they're old enough to take a girl/woman from the older, "worthy" men. You pack off your thirteen year old to start her new life as a wife and mother without bothering to get her unpressed consent. You tell girls that there's ONE path to righteousness and it's through the priesthood holder in their lives. You keep them out of school. You raise them in forced poverty and teach them that the world is evil...but, it's okay to take "the devil's money". You hide pedophiles and rapists within your community and teach your children to be obedient to these monsters. But, yeah... having forty siblings to play with ought to make up for those things, eh'? You're just one big, happy, dysfunctional family. Kudos!
No girl is forced into a marriage. It is a sacred calling that god sends to her.
No girl is forced into marriage? Are you kidding me? The interesting thing about ex-FLDS, polygamous women is the over-whelming similarities in their stories. Almost all of them speak of being taken before the prophet (or other church authority) and told to "pray about" marrying so-and-so. They talk about being lectured on what will happen to them if they deny this "calling" or "blessing" from God. In some cases, they're pulled from their beds in the middle of the night and married off against their will, without the presence of family or friends. If your lifestyle is such a joyous, beautiful thing...why would you have need to hide it? Furthermore, children CAN'T consent to marriage. How do you expect a sixteen year old to know what it means to be a plural wife and mother? How can she be prepared to be a sexual partner when every person who's escaped says they were never taught about sex?
A woman's body is ready to have children at the time of their first menses! This is how it was done in Biblical times.
Pregnancy and parenting are, without question, more than physical conditions. There are nine year olds who have a period...does that mean they're ready to nurse a baby at two in the morning or stay up all night with a colicky infant or sick toddler? Also, shall we look at the complication rate of babies having babies? Teen girls are still growing - even after that first period. When you purposefully impregnate a teen aged girl, you are running the risk of long term health problems. Considering that the FLDS want these girls to have MULTIPLE pregnancy before adulthood compounds those health risks. Just because you CAN have a baby doesn't mean you should.
Our girls mature faster because we surround them with the reality of motherhood instead of sending them out into the world and showing them things that they won't use in marriage or child-bearing.
The reality of motherhood? What the hell? So, basically, your argument is: if we show them no other life, then they will be less likely to be disappointed or shocked when they're sold into eternal servitude to protect a man's position in the afterlife? Yeah...I've heard that things like math and science take away from the "important" womanly lessons of; laundry, cooking, cleaning, raising children, happy marriages, and putting Band-aids on boo boos. NOT! I hate to burst your FLDS bubble, but there are many women on this earth (and reading this blog) who have somehow managed to use their brains and have children. And, in general, the more a woman knows about the world, and the more confidence she has in that knowledge, the better mother she makes.
Oh, of course!! I wake up every morning and think, "Wow...if only I had a sister-wife or nine who could share a life of meek servitude and have sex with my husband." *rolls eyes*