I've had several questions come in, over the last two days, and I hope to get to them all in the next two or three days. Some of the questions have been asked by several people, so I figureed that this was the best way to get to all of you in a timely fashion.
Bear with me, though. Despite the wonderful warm fuzzies and emotionally satisfying feelings that you've all been giving me,... physically, I've been in a great deal of pain and dealing with raging fevers. So...if this sounds disjointed, it's because I'm on narcotic medication for pain and fevers always make me a bit loopy.
Pmomma, while you are awaiting the installation of some kind of UV screening on your windows, have you checked into any of that UV blocking clothing (Solumbra, Coolibar) I had mentioned in an earlier post? It's pricey, but it might be a good stop-gap for the short term.
I have a few pieces of that Solumbra line (a floral SPT shirt and drawstring pants). The shirt is great. The pants are HOT. Oh my gosh. The price of these were prohibitive to my purchasing more, too. I think the cost for the pants was $80+ and the shirt was at least $55. They *do* seems to protect my skin, though. I've found a few companies out of Australia, but...jeez, the shipping is insane. I realize that my kids wear Gymbo (a fact that John R. harped on), GAP, and Polo, but that's because I'm a coupon/sale/clearance fiend. When it comes to myself, I'm just as frugal. Ok. Frugal is generous - I'm a cheapskate. But, in general, I have switched to wearing only long sleeves and long pants with my fishing hat. It's not terribly attractive, but it gets me to daylight appointments (since the van has UV protection already). Just last night, PDaddy found me fingerless gloves (*squeal*). I've been looking for them FOR. EVER. They're not as easy to obtain in California. Last night was the first night in a year that my hands were warm all night (I suffer from Reynauld's - a side effect of lupus).
What do you do with yourself? I'd go nuts if I had to stay in one room. Don't you get depressed?
Well, as one might be able to tell, I have my computer. Pdaddy has set me up with a recliner in the bat cave. I spend most of the day in the chair, chatting with you guys or surfing the net. I'm also a big reader. Usually, I go through four books a week. This has become a costly thing because the library rarely has the books I want to read...but, between the amazon marketplace and paperbackbookswap, I do okay. I also received six seasons of Gilmore Girls for Christmas, so that's keeping me entertained. :) As for depression - sometimes. There are days where I have trouble pulling it together and keeping my attitude positive, but... I have to say they're pretty far and few between. Despite everything, I do have a ton of things to be thankful for. I have my mind. I have my family. I have all my senses. I have the support of friends. And, though it's been a tight fix when we end up paying copays out the tush...it really could be much worse. MUCH worse. I'm under no impression that what I'm going through is the worst possible situation one could be in. Plus, I have four kids - I don't have the liberty of being depressed or wallowing in my limitations. It's amazing how a snuggle from a possum can pep me back up.
Do you have other needs? Services? And/Or - I can't help monetarily, but what other things might you need?
I want to be perfectly clear on this. What you guys have given me, through e-mails and posts and phone calls, is enough. Whatever else we receive is icing on a very delicious cake. I'm grateful for the relationships that are being built or have been built. So, I want no one to feel bad or feel obligated.
If you have ideas, then please present them. If you know of a product that would help, then don't hesitate to share it with me. :)
Jen R asked: I've been researching our local chapter of Unitarians, who seem to be atheist-friendly and non-judgemental (they even have a discussion series coming up exploring non-theistic humanism). It seems like it would give me some contact with a community, and the feeling of togetherness and bondedness that comes from church-going, without having to get the godly whatsits that generally seem to parasite along with such things.
So, my question of you or your readers is this: is it too good to be true? Will their touchy-feely "spirituality" be comforting, or eyeroll inducing? Any bad experiences?
If you're purely looking for fellowship and a community, then I think the UU's are a great group of people. I'm sure that there are good, bad, and everything in between, as far as the people who attend UU services. I'm sure that there are some who would try to convert. So, who knows. Maybe someone here can answer you more specifically.
Edited to add this question which has been e-mailed to me by three different people since I posted this:
"We want to help you. You're letting us show our atheist pride and humanity. What things would make your life easier? What things make you more comfortable?" (Paraphrased) - Christopherthinks, lookabear, and xx_frankenfurter_xx
What things would make my life easier/more comfortable?
A stool for the kitchen. Warm socks. Hats. Books. A maid (ha!).