A few months ago, I started conversing (via e-mail and phone) with this really cool, but very Chritsian, young lady. Her name is Kate and she posts here under the pseudonym of Evodevo_goddess. She asked me to share her story and okayed' my using some of her e-mails to do so.
Kate began e-mailing me after this post about the Catholic Church. Here was her first e-mail to me:
Hi PMomma, my name is Kate and I'm a student at *insert university name*
(expunged for privacy). I started reading your blog when I was doing a web
search for blogs about people having personal experiences with the Catholic
church and molestation. I really like your post on the matter. You will get no
high talk from me protecting the church. I don't know about atheism. Do you
think you're angry at God for the wrong reason? He did not abuse the children
you post about. I think God will punish the priests in hell. Are you an atheist
because you don't like this catholic stuff? My knowledge about atheism is
So...I responded to her with the usual and appropriate responses.
Unlike some theists, she seemed to actually READ what I wrote and we entered into a discussion of mutual respect. About a month in, she said she was starting to understand what the atheist position was/is and how it made sense. Another two weeks went by and she was saying that, in her biology class, things were making more sense than they ever had and how she was so happy not to have to worry about the apparent inconsistencies between religion and science. She took on the name evodevo_goddess. Still, I said nothing about what or how she should believe/think/whatever.
She sent me the following after John's tantrums -
Me, again! John is an idiot. You have beautiful children! I
have been thinking about our talks and I want to thank you for helping me
separate religion from reality. I believed because it was what I
wanted to be true. I still have big questions. I don't want to
accept made up answers anymore. I want fact.
I'm posting this to show how unnecessary the strong arm tactics are. If you allow people to think for themselves, they will! :)